Issue Position: On Heterophobia, Gay Rights, and Civil Unions

Issue Position

(Heterophobia = fear of one's own or other's healthy dating behaviors, fertility, or healthy, viable 20-something appearances.)

There are two facts about homosexuality that all sane people will agree to: 1) that no culture exists that does not have some number of gays in its population either openly or clandestinely and 2) that "gay bashing" negatively impacts the culture with vigilantism and the injury and death of gays as well as those falsely accused (either through naiveté and superstition or through deliberate slander -- there are even cultures that claim they can recognize homosexuals at birth and practice infanticide in the name of this "vision").

The vigilantism is not only overt but also passive-aggressive, and it permeates the culture with an obsessive testing and faking of homosexual behaviors that have no other effect but to guarantee the homophobic and heterophobic advantages in the workplace guaranteeing that the inappropriate will always have an edge. Some of those who are targeted are completely without real or imagined homosexual behavior markers, but merely refuse to participate in those obsessive, ever-present, latently homosexual, inappropriate behaviors and perverted, pimpy pantomimes in the name of a true commitment to politically correct behaviors, appropriateness, and a workplace and community without sexual harassment. These are truly heterosexual and they frighten both many of the heterophobic and the homophobic. Those who refuse to participate in the inappropriateness are victims of heterophobia and are often harassed out of the workplace and community or forced to comply with the inappropriateness. This subtler, passive-aggressive form of vigilantism is often used to harass the competent as well -- those who can make their way in the work place without the perverted, pimpy behaviors are simply made targets of both heterophobia and homophobia. Anyone who dare be both competent and appropriate is the first and major target for mobbing and bullying in any workplace or community plagued by homophobia and heterophobia. One of the signs of the deliberateness and consciousness of these efforts is the removal of prohibitions against innuendo (slander, gossip, and hearsay) and sexual past history as important provisions in the sexual harassment policy.

While homosexuals in the U.S. have gained a wider acceptance and wider protection, there are those who refuse to believe that strong negative reactions to homosexuality are as inevitable in any culture as homosexuality is itself . There are also those who insist that one is either 100% pro-homosexual rights or 100% against them. The gay community needs to deal with the reality that many will never give up their negative associations to homosexuality as inevitably as there will always be gays in any culture. And they can no more be 100%"educated" out of the culture as homosexuality could. Certainly education helps, but it cannot be one-sided, the reality of the existence of gays needs to be taught to others as much as the reality and inevitability of those who will never accept it. All we can really hope to do is quiet the violence and encourage civility in a long-term process. And those gays who prefer to educate the culture need to recognize and accept that there will always be those who want to educate them. There is no reason the educators from both sides cannot sit down and have a sane and reasonable discussion about their differences and no reason members of both sides cannot attend the other sides' classes with an open mind to see what they have to say: knee jerk reactions, shouting, and flaunting should be avoided.

One particularly good example of the homosexual community's refusal to accept the inevitability of this opinion in any culture is their refusal to recognize there are many democrats and many liberals who do not and will never accept it and are often forced into "hiding" in the right wing to affect their agenda from there rather than be intimidated by the constant bombardment of democratic rallies with transgender parades and the most exaggerated homosexual behaviors in the face of all and any other democratic issues (except perhaps abortion which is equally exaggerated in its popularity and its expediency as a liberal issue and identifier). Adherents of both issues insist that anyone who is not 100% for the latest and greatest and most extreme of all the homosexual hot-button issues or abortion issues today simply must not be a liberal. Extremists adherents of both issues have decimated the left and this fact is totally unrecognized. Certainly both sides are completely unaware of the effectiveness of subtler and slower, more considered approaches to these issues that may have more effective results for those two main issues than the extremes could ever effect.

Returning to the original issue that sane people agree that all cultures will have homosexuality and that the vigilantism in its wake is not of value to the culture; neither liberals nor conservatives can allow the extremes of these issues to polarize and dominate American politics to the degree that they do, and they must realize that effective policy for all would be more likely to result if the extremists were not so determined to dominate the left and America with just those two issues and we could return to sane and reasonable discussion of many issues.

The issue of gay marriage is once again "in the face" of the 2012 political candidates distracting them and forcing them to be labeled either anti-gay or anti-God when there are many other issues that need to be addressed.

TaxTheRichDotName is itself on a one-issue mission and as such will take no side on this issue, but would like to point out that a number of states do allow gay marriage or civil unions, so why not step back for a few months and see whether the passage of these laws have a positive or negative effect on those two main issues: the refusal to recognize the reality of homosexuality in any culture and the vigilantism that affects everyone (particularly the competent) if it takes root.

Sincerely,

Philip A. Bralich, Ph.D.

Give me liberty or give me debt: It is easier this go around.

Metaphor:

Characterizing liberals as baby killing, trans-genders with no other political agenda than to impose kneepads and a ring and a slot for a three-dollar bill in every register in America on all Americans is a lot like characterizing conservatives as the party of toe-tapping Larry Craig's bottom feeding their "power" from the bus stop bathrooms of America with no other political agenda than to leave their demented, bi-polar, pregnant, 16-year-old daughters with no other recourse to "resolve" their terror than a fat chick with a coat hanger looking to create more Sybil's and the pack of jackals that would be necessary to protect such a demoness, such a Whore of Babylon.

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